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onlyafool123
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Changing careers.

Post by onlyafool123 » Sat Oct 08, 2016 9:02 pm

I've been stuck in a repetitive job for years but ive always used paruresis as an excuse and always been too scared to move onto different work incase the toilet situation is to hard to adapt too. I would say with the door closed in a cubicle im quite successful door open im not to bad but fail at urinals or peeing near friends whilst outdoors. I feel as though if workiing outdoors id have to pee outdoors but im not sure how it goes? I would like to just have the confidence to work in something i like. Is there any suggestions? ive always wanted to be into mechanical, carpentry or horticulture.

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Re: Changing careers.

Post by eric » Fri Oct 14, 2016 8:14 am

I would say a job where both sexes work together would be best. When there are men and women there tends to be a bit more discretion and privacy. Smaller places where there might only be one loo for everyone, or one each for men and women is ok, because they will be single cubicle. Places with loads of men are likely to have urinals. Working outdoors with a crew of men is always going to be difficult to guarantee privacy. Working, say, in horticulture with men and women will be ok, because there would be a requirement for a private toilet. A mechanics workshop where there could be lots of men would be a problem, but very small businesses often have a single household type toilet. Work where you travel around all the time is likely to be a problem and always keep you anxious. If you do go for an job interview, and it's at the place you will be working, it might pay to check out the toilet if you can, without making a fuss, to avoid being stuck with a bad situation.

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Re: Changing careers.

Post by onlyafool123 » Sat Oct 15, 2016 11:56 am

I agree with you as my current workplace has men and women im blessed with 3 cubicals. But i am not challenged in the work i do assembly. I am hoping to get the best of both worlds maybe in a horticulture nursery, botanic garden etc. Something outdoors would be great carpentry or mechanical.
Thanks for your respone.

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Re: Changing careers.

Post by Derek » Fri Nov 04, 2016 8:02 am

Strangely, I changed careers just over a decade ago, to the most AP friendly job on the planet - your own office, with own lockable bathroom, and with own shower and lockable single cubicle toilet within this.
The normal workers there have to use communal facilities, and with "set breaks" - similar to a bell on a factory floor, you'd have to be a non-paruretic to survive there, and urinate almost with Pavlovian like ease and repetition.
The contrast is spectacular.
The factory workers scenario could only work if you are fully recovered, along with other jobs, like a bus/coach driver or a travelling salesman/ rep.
As it turns out, when I chose the job I have now, I was in recovery mode and did not think too much about it.
But in the bad old days, this would have been a dream come true almost a retirement job.
It is amazing how different jobs can be.
These days I can urinate now almost like a non-paruretic under control conditions, eg fully fluid loaded at my local shopping centre, esp using adjunct aids such as caffeine and bethanechol (which I can get from a drug wholesaler), this increases bladder contractility, almost to the point you could urinate on the floor in the mall.
But this has not translated to being fully cured - things like travelling and buses/ plane trips etc can still be a problem.
It is a matter of keeping to work at it, and eventually your options, both career and personal, will increase.
If I had to take on a job that necessitated a lot of travelling for instance, then more intense practice and a combination of recovery and survival strategies would have to be employed. But it can be done.

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Re: Changing careers.

Post by onlyafool123 » Sun Nov 13, 2016 2:11 pm

Its funny to have the best of both worlds i have a friendly paruresis environment but the work i do is not stimulating or well payed so ill have to see how i go.

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