My story
Posted: Thu Feb 16, 2012 11:31 pm
Hi there
I have suffered from shy bladder from my high school years.
As a kid my mum used to complain that i always had to use the toiled wherever we would go, i never cared i just needed to go!
But an incident in high school where a bunch of us went for a cruise in a guys new car became the start of it all.
While driving around for hours i needed to go, the driver stopped not at a servo but on the side of the road, well with them close by i had a freeze up.
After getting back in the car I admitted that I couldn't go. well didn't i get heckled, "how didn't you go" ?
Even a few years later at a school reunion those those who were there remembered that night and had to remind me, " you couldn't go" and the way they said it made me feel like the biggest weirdo.
Since then I had always then on looked for the last stall in the line, never used a urinal. for years.
Then I went on a holiday and on the plane I could not pee for the life of me, after the 5 hour flight I even had trouble in the airport.
For years I have had a problem going without some distress, worried I was taking too long and that people were "waiting on me".
I had seen a Psych to hipnotise me and give me a tape of cognitive therapy to listen to while meditating.
I for many years never even used the tape as i thought it was all bolony.
A few years back after going to a all day music festival, all they had were portaloos and I couldn't use them no matter how hard I tried, so i started listening to the tape and tried relaxation techniques.
On the whole after a few tries it did seem to help to some extent, thought not every visit was successful and multiple tries were requires for relief.
I have only ever had issues using a loo at the shops or a resturant etc. Home and work is OK.
Today after reading an inspirational testimony on the internet i am fighting back.
I was having pretty good success using a stall on 85% of occasions but still always felt nervous and at a concert ill go when the band start so the loos will be empty.
I have without reaching 100 % now pushed myself to try using the urinal.
I can use a urinal if the bathroom is empty but if i see someone also going in after me, ill have no chance, off to the stall for me, which is now around 98% successful.
So in trying to go the extra of using a urinal it had helped me have better success in using a stall virtually anywhere. Yay.
I am doing the urinal thing at work, when its empty and there are no dividers.
I have tried in public and there is almost no times when it is empty so i have no luck.
Not having a buddy I have tried doing the 2 minute thing one day, 3 times over but in the end still had 3 misfires, but at least I put myself out there and nobody cared that i just stood there.
I need to do that more often.
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I have suffered from shy bladder from my high school years.
As a kid my mum used to complain that i always had to use the toiled wherever we would go, i never cared i just needed to go!
But an incident in high school where a bunch of us went for a cruise in a guys new car became the start of it all.
While driving around for hours i needed to go, the driver stopped not at a servo but on the side of the road, well with them close by i had a freeze up.
After getting back in the car I admitted that I couldn't go. well didn't i get heckled, "how didn't you go" ?
Even a few years later at a school reunion those those who were there remembered that night and had to remind me, " you couldn't go" and the way they said it made me feel like the biggest weirdo.
Since then I had always then on looked for the last stall in the line, never used a urinal. for years.
Then I went on a holiday and on the plane I could not pee for the life of me, after the 5 hour flight I even had trouble in the airport.
For years I have had a problem going without some distress, worried I was taking too long and that people were "waiting on me".
I had seen a Psych to hipnotise me and give me a tape of cognitive therapy to listen to while meditating.
I for many years never even used the tape as i thought it was all bolony.
A few years back after going to a all day music festival, all they had were portaloos and I couldn't use them no matter how hard I tried, so i started listening to the tape and tried relaxation techniques.
On the whole after a few tries it did seem to help to some extent, thought not every visit was successful and multiple tries were requires for relief.
I have only ever had issues using a loo at the shops or a resturant etc. Home and work is OK.
Today after reading an inspirational testimony on the internet i am fighting back.
I was having pretty good success using a stall on 85% of occasions but still always felt nervous and at a concert ill go when the band start so the loos will be empty.
I have without reaching 100 % now pushed myself to try using the urinal.
I can use a urinal if the bathroom is empty but if i see someone also going in after me, ill have no chance, off to the stall for me, which is now around 98% successful.
So in trying to go the extra of using a urinal it had helped me have better success in using a stall virtually anywhere. Yay.
I am doing the urinal thing at work, when its empty and there are no dividers.
I have tried in public and there is almost no times when it is empty so i have no luck.
Not having a buddy I have tried doing the 2 minute thing one day, 3 times over but in the end still had 3 misfires, but at least I put myself out there and nobody cared that i just stood there.
I need to do that more often.
'